Have you ever taken the time to find out what makes you feel loved? Years ago, Dr. Gary Chapman wrote a book called "The Five Love Languages," which has been an eye-opener for many relationships. Understanding and appreciating your loved one is the glue that holds relationships together, whether your spouse, significant other, child, family member, or even co-worker.
Years ago, my husband and I read the book and took the quiz that determines your primary and secondary love languages. And, recently, we re-took the quiz to see if the languages were still the same. It turned out that they were, and maybe that is why we are still happy and enjoying life together.
I know for sure that learning what makes each other feel loved, appreciated, and fulfilled will keep peace and happiness in your home and workplace. Below is a brief definition of each language so you can decide what is important to you or your loved ones. And will help you determine how you communicate your feelings more effectively.
Words of affirmation - Do you thrive when someone says nice things about you? How about when someone says, I love you, you're beautiful, or I am proud of you? Does it make you happy when someone leaves you a nice note or even recognizes all of your hard work?
Quality time - Are you most fulfilled when spending quality time with your loved one, your co-worker, or a friend? Is it essential for you to get undivided attention when you are trying to get your point across?
Receiving Gifts - This is not about being overly materialistic. Instead, it is about feeling loved by receiving a small token, whether it be flowers, an unexpected gift, an award for your hard work, or even a unique token of appreciation. Surprises are pleasant for this love language.
Acts of service - You may be the type of person who appreciates when someone extends a helping hand. How nice is it when someone says, "let me help you with that" or "what can I do for you to make it easier."
Physical touch - A big hug, a warm embrace, or a pat on the back can be an expression of love and appreciation. It might still give you butterflies to hold hands with your loved one and to snuggle up now and then. Expressing love and gratitude through touch can be reassuring in many ways.
I believe that it is a good idea to explore how to make relationships better in every way possible. I encourage you to find out more about what your love language is at 5lovelanguages.com. Have fun with it and share it with your family, your friends, and your co-workers.
My affirmation for you this week is:
"I will explore my love language and will embrace the importance of communication and appreciation of others."